Abandoned or Claimed? - Homily for the 21st Sunday in OT (2021)

I’ve been on many flights and I’ve done the whole thing of checking the bag at the ticket counter. I say goodbye to my bag and then pray: Lord, please bring it back to me at my destination. And I get to my destination and head to baggage claim. And you know how it goes: there is the carousel and everyone is waiting; and the buzzer goes off and an alarm light and the bags start coming down the chute. People see their bags and it doesn’t matter whether the bags are full of clean clothes or dirty clothes: they run to their bags and are happy that their bags aren’t lost. Because that would be the worst, right?—when all the bags are claimed and everyone has left the carousel and your bag never showed up. It’s lost. 

But that’s not actually the worst. I mean, you could get a call—and will likely get a call—a day later saying that the airline found your bag. It was lost in Sheboygan or something but now it’s found. So, that’s not the worst. 

The worst is when days pass, weeks pass—and you realize that you are never getting your bag back. You have to give it up forever and give up hope of ever getting it back. Losing luggage is not the worst—having to abandon it is. -- 

Abandonment. 

We swim in that word these days, we feel it, even if we don’t know it by its name. Abandonment: a sense of hopelessness, connected to giving up, and being rejected. I’m not talking about luggage anymore. I’m talking about you and me. We can so easily feel abandoned and operate from that. And maybe for good reason: maybe one of our parents left the family when we were younger; or maybe you have felt abandoned by your spouse who chooses the drink or maybe your spouse left you; maybe you feel abandoned by your kids—rejected; abandoned. And maybe we felt it this past year; maybe we felt abandoned by our priests and bishops. 

We know it’s the worst because it pulls on our heart strings when we see others abandoned, like in the pictures coming from Afghanistan.  And our family and friends who have served over there—many of them and their families have been forgotten in this news cycle. Yes, abandonment is the worst. – 

Which is why I was totally devastated by Jesus’ question today. He asks: “Do you also want to leave?”

 (He had just taught on the Eucharist and its says because of this, many of his disciples left Him and returned to their former way of life. That is, many of Jesus’ disciples abandoned Him. And Jesus is God and He is strong and you’d think it wouldn’t matter to Him, really. But then He turns to the remaining Twelve, the Apostles, and asks Do you also want to abandon me as well?) 

And that’s devastating to me because it means that Jesus cares if He is abandoned. God cares if we leave Him. – 

And how many people have left Him today! And not only about the Eucharist, but that second reading! You heard the line: wives, be subordinate to your husbands. How many today echo the crowds as they say, This saying is hard. -- wives, be subordinate to your husbands?! -- Who can bear it? And they grumbled against Him. 

Each year, there is someone who elbows their spouse during that second reading. 

But what was the first line of that passage? Do you remember the first line? – Look, brothers and sisters, you need to know the first line. Everyone knows the second line about the wives. But you must know the first line. If you don’t get the first line, you will mess it all up. The first line says: 

Be subordinate to ONE ANOTHER out of reverence for Christ. 

In other words, there is no power-play here; it isn’t as though men are way up here and women are way down here. No. We are equals in dignity and we are both called to lay down our lives. Hence Jesus says: Husbands, love your wives AS CHRIST loved the Church. How did Jesus do that? By dying for her. He washed her feet. Spouses, have you washed each other’s feet? Do you not know that you are both to be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ? 

And how many people have left Jesus and His Church because they didn’t understand that. They gave up. They lost hope because they didn't hear the first line. They only focused on the second. And they abandoned Him. And Jesus cares about that. – 

But, there’s more. That question that Jesus asks Peter and the Apostles (do you also want to go), none of us understands the gravity of that question. I need to walk you though this. 

Because, what if Peter and the Apostles say “yeah, we’re out”? 

After all, Jesus had been with them for almost two years at this point. He had called them, claimed them as His own; He has taught them the parables and the mysteries behind the parables; He has given them authority over spirits and revealed His glory at the Transfiguration. If the Apostles leave now, there is no time to form a new batch. They are it. All of Jesus’ eggs are in one basket. 

Because, if they go, there will be no Apostles at the Last Supper, no ordination of priests there. And at the Resurrection, sure, you’ll still have Mary Magdalene there and she’ll see the Resurrection—but who will believe her? After all, during that era in history there was an actual patriarchal system—nobody would have believed a former prostitute who was raving about a man she loved as being raised from the dead. Mary Magdalene needed the Apostles because they confirmed what would have otherwise been dismissed.

That is all to say: without the Apostles, we may have experienced graces of salvation because of the Cross, but we would be on soft ground when it came to the Resurrection; and, more, we would not have the grace of union that comes from the Eucharist—because we wouldn’t have the priests to do it. 

That’s the gravity of this question. If the Apostles say no, it’s over. No Eucharist—which is precisely what Jesus had just taught on. 

And if we think Jesus wouldn’t do this, remember: He did the very same thing when He sent Gabriel the Archangel to Mary and asked Mary if she would say yes to the Father’s plan. If Mary says no, it’s over. – 

So let's boil all of this down to a single point. And that point is: what is Jesus really asking Peter in this moment? Jesus is asking: Do you claim me as your Savior and Messiah? Do you claim me or abandonment. Because to claim is the opposite of to abandon.

And what does Peter do? He says: Master, we’ve left everything. Where else would we go? 

Peter claims Him. And I love the honesty, too. Peter is honest that is claiming is weak. It is weak claim because Peter says, Yeah, you’re my Messiah, but it’s really because I have nothing else. 

And that’s true. Peter has nothing else. And you would think that Jesus would be upset by such a weak claim. But it is enough for Him. And He blesses Peter and the Apostles. 

And notice what Peter says next. He says, We are convinced that you have the words of everlasting life. 

In other words, Peter is admitting, when it comes to this hard teaching on the Eucharist and, really, on Jesus as the Messiah-- Peter is freely admitting: Lord, I don’t know how you are going to do it. I don’t know how you are going to turn bread and wine into your flesh and blood. And I don’t know how we are going to eat that. And, more, how eating that would bring us to eternal life in the Father. But, Jesus, I saw you walk on water last night. And multiply loaves and fishes the evening prior. I believe that you can do this… 

That's beautiful to me. --

And it's beautiful, too, because Jesus is also claiming Peter. They stay together. They are in this together. In good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.

That second reading comes full circle: I speak of a great mystery; I speak in reference to Christ [the husband] and the Church [His bride]. 

And the two become one flesh.

How does Jesus become one flesh with us? In the Eucharist, His body and blood enters our body and blood. And the two become one flesh. 

See? Jesus is present here. He has not abandoned us! And the fact that Jesus is present even now in this tabernacle—it is proof that Jesus has not abandoned us. It is proof that when Peter claimed Jesus, Jesus blessed that and claimed him, too.

So, you are not abandoned, my friends! You have been claimed! 

Jesus invites you to claim Him, now, too. Claim Him as your Savior! Say to Him, Lord, I don’t know how you are going to solve the pandemic; I don’t know how you are going to care for my checkbook or my marriage or my family – and the million other worries that I have in this life. But, Jesus, Master,  you are my Messiah. And I believe that you can do it. 

This is a moment of decision. And don’t think for a second that it isn’t important. Peter’s moment was crucial! Mary’s moment was paramount! Your moment—generations in your family are affected by this decision to abandon or to claim.

And if not for them, then for you. Because when we live from a place of abandonment, we totally get stressed out and burned out. And we get that way because we’re carrying it all ourselves, we are trying to do everything ourselves. And we try to do that because we feel abandoned and we’re operating from that. And then we become irritable—and who wants to be around that? 

But if we claim Jesus and let Him claim us—if we really are convinced that He is my Savior and yours—then we can give Him control. We can say, Lord, I know you can do it. I believe you will do it. You will help me in a radical and beautiful way. Because you are my Messiah. 

And when we operate from that position, we are much more at peace—because it’s no longer entirely on our shoulders. HE is helping us carry this Cross. And from that comes a greater patience, and more energy, and more generosity. And a kindness that people like to be around. 

So claim Him, brothers and sisters. 

For He has not abandoned you. You have been claimed!