This morning, Jesus talks to us about
the talents He gives and the legacy we leave behind. The Talents in
the story include a whole host of things: it's His grace, His heart
that He entrusts to us (cf. the first reading), this faith, this
life. But the question is whether the soul that receives these gifts
puts them to use for His legacy: that is, do we grow, do we love, do
we bring more people to the faith?-- that's the five talents making
five more.
So the problem with the last servant is
that he did not leave a legacy. Indeed, he buried his talents. This
is the irony: when he buries the talents, he isn't just burying the
talents, he is burying himself. His life was meant to glorify God.
But instead, he lived as though dead.
***
Today, we conclude our three-part
series on death and dying. And today's gospel gives us the theme:
what kind of legacy am I leaving behind?
Before we go there, I know that there
are a couple of questions that people have regarding cremation and
the funeral Mass. Let's answer those first.
When we consider cremation, we must
first remember that the human person not only has dignity, but is
also imbued with glory: the Christian was a temple of the Holy
Spirit. Each one of our bodies was the place of God's glory. We pray
that in our short lives, this glory shined forth.
At a funeral Mass, we are reminded of
this glory when the body is brought forward and the priest blesses it
with holy water, recalling that the person had received the light of
Christ in baptism and had become a temple of the Holy Spirit. Great
talents, those! Death, however, has now claimed the mortal body.
Nevertheless, we still honor the body because it was once the temple.
When it comes to cremation, it was once
prohibited because there existed widespread pagan beliefs that the
body was bad or that the resurrection didn't exist-- and so those that did cremation did so badly, from a position of doubt or from disdain of the body. Today,
the Church allows cremation so long as the person did not hold such
doubtful or disdainful positions. When cremation is done, it is
preferred that it be done after the funeral Mass (for the reasons
mentioned above: ie, to revere the sanctity of the body).
We must also note, however, that while
cremation is allowed, it is not necessarily preferred. The reason for
this is because there have arisen some abuses regarding it. For
example, there is a growing trend of people keeping the remains of
their loved ones-- on their mantle, in amulets, I've even seen in
potted plants. Unfortunately, in many of those cases, the remains are
lost or even thrown away-- not out of malice, but simple neglect or
forgetfulness. Our loved ones deserve better than that. This is why
the Church points out that, if a person is cremated, they must be
buried in a cemetery or columbarium-- some place stable that connects
also to the tomb of Christ and which, in turn, gives us and our
future generations the reminder to pray. Too many souls are forgotten
and not prayed for when they just become another piece of furniture.
For much the same reason, remains are
not to be scattered.
If you do have the remains of a loved
one, please let me or your priest know and we can perform the rite of
committal (burial).
***
Let us turn to the funeral Mass.
When it comes to the funeral Mass, we
must remember that it is a Mass. And at the center of the Mass is
Jesus. The center is not the dead person, but what Jesus has done and
is doing for the person.
A funeral Mass, therefore, is supposed
to be a time not simply to remember but to pray. We reflect: what
Talents did Jesus give this person in life-- Baptism, Eucharist,
Confirmation, vocation? Did they make five Talents more?
This is where the funeral Mass is
supposed to draw us in: we are to be reminded that death comes for
us, too, and that we will be judged; did I make five talents more?
I don't know about you, but when I die,
I don't want people to say how awesome I was (I'm not, and I won't
care). I will want people asking Jesus to be merciful. That's what we
are doing at the funeral.
Readings, Homilies, Music, and eulogies
(if there absolutely must be one) should highlight this and not avoid
it. One of the best homilies/eulogies in this regard is the homily
that Father Scalia gave at the funeral for his father, Justice
Scalia. Go to the Youtube video-- it's worth your time.
A final word about the funeral Mass:
plan ahead. When my dad died unexpectedly, it was difficult for me
and my brothers and sister and their spouses to both grieve and plan
a funeral. Save your family that difficulty and meet with a priest to
discuss your funeral. I know, it sounds morbid, but it will help your
family and it will help you to focus anew on Jesus whom you will meet
at the end.
***
After the burial, we pray for the dead.
You notice that at every single Catholic Mass, we pray for the dead.
And oftentimes there is a particular person that we mention by name.
That is because the family has asked the parish to pray for their
beloved in a particular way-- the Mass is offered for him or her.
Have Masses offered for your beloved dead. Simply ask me to do so or
visit the parish office and ask Julia there. There is no cost (we
don't sell Sacraments). If you want to give a donation, that will be
just fine.
Know too that at every Mass you can
offer your holy communion for your beloved dead and for all the souls
in purgatory. A very good prayer is the prayer of St. Gertrude, a
prayer given to her by Jesus Himself, promising her that if she said
it with her heart, souls would be brought to heaven. The holy communion that you receive is so very powerful-- it is Jesus! Unite your love to His and say at communion, "Jesus, bring me and those I offer you in my heart now-- bring us to heaven!"
Many saints have pointed out that when
you pray for a soul in purgatory and it is then brought to heaven,
that soul in heaven prays for you. So, pray for the dead! When you
think of it: it's a great investment! Some people here have brought
many souls to heaven and now have many souls in heaven praying for
them. That's awesome. That's five talents making five more!
***
Finally, do have a will. I say this
because I have seen too many families ripped apart because of
bickering and fighting over the parents' estate. Be generous, but
also be clear.
And continue to show where your
priorities are: leave a gift to the parish church and school. If you
are able, let's start an endowment.
And, I know, some may say: "Sure,
the priest is asking for money now." No, I'm not good at that or
"The Ask." I just know that there is an opportunity to do
good and I'm inviting people to participate in that. After all, if we
are bringing souls to heaven here, I think that warrants not a token
donation but true investment. Right?
Our goal is to leave a legacy of faith.
When I meet with couples to have their children baptized or engaged
couples who want to get married, the Number One Thing they say is
that they have received the faith and want to pass it on to their
children. Of course, what often passes us by is that, generally
speaking, each new generation is doing less than the previous
generation. Kids are doing less than their parents who did less than
their parents. In such cases, we aren't making five talents more, but
less.
A good examination of conscience here
is to ask yourself this question: when I die, will I have left my
children a faith strong enough to get them through my death-- and not only
to get through it, but to turn to Jesus in it? Have I left my
children a relationship with Jesus that they can grow in and know how
to grow in? Have I left my children not only a knowledge of prayer
but a practice of prayer such that, when I die, they will be offering
Masses for me, praying for me, visiting my grave and then turning to
their family to encourage a higher way of living?
I look at my young people here with us.
I want you to do more than I am doing. Do more than me and your
parents. Don't just follow me, I want you to learn how to lead with
me and make more talents than what God gave you initially.
***
I know these have been heavy topics
over the past three weeks and your patience has been wonderful. Let
us pray for our beloved dead now. And let us also turn to Jesus and
ask Him for the wisdom and strength that we may do His will. Let us
use the Talents He gives us so that, when we die, not only will we be
brought to heaven, but we will bring a litany of saints behind us: we
will have used our talent and made many, many more. An eternal
legacy.
In the Name of the Father, and of the
Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
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